If you’ve been living under a rock, actor/singer/dipshit Kim Hyun Joong previously admitted to beating his ex-girlfriend once and said that he broke her ribs “practicing martial arts” in another separate incident (really), and now he has reportedly reunited with said ex-girlfriend and they’re expecting a child and planning for marriage.
In the March issue of magazine ‘Woman Sense’s March issue, they wrote, “Kim Hyun Joong reconciled with his two years older ex-girlfriend and are expecting a baby. The baby’s mother is Ms. Choi (31), the ex-girlfriend who sued Kim Hyung Joong for assault.” A close friend of the couple told Women’s Sense that Kim Hyun Joong and Ms. Choi peacefully reconciled when the idol sincerely apologized for his actions after the assault case. The magazine went on to quote the friend who revealed, “Currently, Kim Hyun Joong is worried about his upcoming enlistment into the army while both families are discussing about marriage and the baby.”
So you’re probably thinking that this is already a fucked up situation, but it gets worse with Dispatch‘s timeline of events.
May 30 & July 12, 2014: Kim Hyun Joong assaults his girlfriend “A.” The first instance results in a two-week recovery, and the second instance in six weeks, as a result of broken ribs.
Aug. 2, 2014: “A” submits a complaint to the police along with medical records and photos as evidence, claiming habitual violence. Kim Hyun Joong denies the claim through his agency. He acknowledges the first instance of violence, but says the broken ribs were a result of playing around.
Sept. 2, 2014: Kim Hyun Joong is called to the police station as a suspect. He admits to only one of the four instances claimed by his girlfriend, and denies that the violence is habitual.
Sept. 15, 2014: Kim Hyun Joong releases a letter of apology through his official website.
Sept. 17, 2014: “A” drops the charges. Her legal rep says Kim Hyun Joong personally sought her out and made a sincere apology.
Sept. 20, 2014: Kim Hyun Joong called in for investigation. He constantly visited A’s house to apologize and ask for a lighter prosecution. Part of their ‘misunderstanding’ was resolved.
October 2014: Kim Hyun Joong stays in contact with “A” during investigation.
November 2014: Kim Hyun Joong prepares a surprise event for “A” on her birthday. Kim Hyun Joong and “A” get back together.
Dec. 24, 2014: Kim Hyun Joong and “A” go to Jeju Island for a Christmas vacation. “A” becomes pregnant.
Dec. 29, 2014: Kim Hyun Joong and “A” are both summoned for questioning.
January 2015: Kim Hyun Joong and “A” find out about pregnancy.
Jan. 19, 2015: Kim Hyun Joong’s assault case wraps up, and a fine is issued.
Kim Hyun Joong essentially used the apology/negotiation process to manipulate her and get back in her pants, during which he got her pregnant, and that was surely considered in the punishment handed down (and in buying his ridiculous excuse). Oh yeah, and now that she’s pregnant, she essentially has to get married to her abuser because being a single mother in Korea is not a real option, thus the abuser and victim are tied together for however long this lasts. And sincerely, I hope this doesn’t end truly terribly.
Korean and international netizens are basically blaming her for getting back with him, and I do understand that snap judgment thought process even if I disagree. Because as we’re sitting here at our computers, it’s easy to think the same shit, “He beat you under the guise of practicing ‘martial arts’, why take him back? Are you an idiot?” I understand why one would think that, but if you connect the dots between the timeline of his case and his already admitted behavior, it’s not hard to see that this was simply a continued manipulation and abuse of her that serves the dual purpose of improving his public image (even if part of that is to decrease sympathy for her) and getting off easier legally.
I dunno what to even hope for at this point, really. It’s a shitty situation is all.
Apart from their relationship, this is also gross because Kim Hyun Joong fans were ALREADY still in denial that he did much of anything wrong, but now for sure they will be out in force with conspiracies and all types of garbage about how this proves oppa is a good guy because she forgave him or whatever.
Back in reality, this only makes him come off like even more of a manipulative dick, but I suspect he’ll continue to thrive anyway because this helps give his fans the “out” or excuse they need to stay in denial-land as the leading oppar-pologists in the field.