It was revealed recently that the actress and actor couple of Goo Hye Sun and Ahn Jae Hyun would be getting divorced, which happens so whatever, right? Sure, but it has been a mess from the start and only continues to escalate.
Starting from the beginning, Goo Hye Sun actually made the impending divorce public through an Instagram post.
In addition to a photo of the words “I love you, Ku Hye Sun. I love you. Ku Hye Sun,” the actress posted the following message:
“After we lost our spark, my husband has had a change of heart and wants a divorce, and I want to stay married. (Next week, representatives of my husband will be releasing news reports, and I am informing you that they are completely untrue. I hope that the truth will come to light.)”
She says that she wants to stay married to him but he wants a divorce after a change of heart.
She then went on to reveal text exchanges between the two.
A: I already told the “New Journey to the West” staff the day before yesterday that I’ll be releasing the [divorce] agreement and the press statement that you gave me three days ago next week, and I’m currently in the process of discussing it with [the “New Journey to the West” staff].
Ku Hye Sun: Not next week. Depending on how my mom’s doing.
Ku Hye Sun: To me, “New Journey to the West” isn’t more important than how my mom’s doing.
A: We’ve already come to an agreement, and all that’s left is the paperwork. I think it would be a meaningless meeting. Let’s move forward as scheduled, and I’ll meet with your mother.
A: I’ve also called her by phone.
Ku Hye Sun: I heard that you had made plans to meet. Contact me when you meet.
Ku Hye Sun: Just like you persuaded her when we got married, take responsibility and persuade her about our divorce. Paperwork isn’t hard.
A: …and I don’t think it will be easy to sort out. I think it will be overwhelming for your mother, and I’m also overwhelmed. Let’s proceed with things according to plan, and I’ll meet with her [another time].
Ku Hye Sun: Work is more important than my mom?
Ku Hye Sun: What kind of loathsome talk is this.
A: I will speak to your mother by phone.
A: I don’t know what to say to her in person.
Ku Hye Sun: But you should still take responsibility. If you act callously like this, I’m not going to stand by and watch.
Ku Hye Sun: Meet her in person and apologize… for the fact that you weren’t able to keep your promises from when we got married.
Ku Hye Sun: Why is work important. If you say work is more important than my mom, then I really won’t hold back.
The actress added in the caption, “My mother has received a shock and is not in good health, which is why I have posted these words. I’m sorry.”
Different cultures and all in terms of speaking to the parents, but making private conversations public is also shitty, and doing it over an alleged refusal to speak to her mother seemed petty. That said, it went to reason things went deeper than this and also that after watching the Song Joong Ki/Song Hye Kyo divorce unfold that Goo Hye Sun likely didn’t want them to control the narrative.
Their agency HB Entertainment released a statement on the divorce, saying that the decision was mutual and that both them and Ahn Jae Hyun were taken aback by claims it wasn’t. In response, Goo Hye Sun then responded that while they were in discussions for a divorce, nothing was finalized yet. She also uploaded a text, which basically serve as her proof that discussions were ongoing.
“It says your line is still busy at this hour. I met and spoke with our board director today and I was told that you told the CEO that I had read KakaoTalk messages of you and the CEO badmouthing me, and that the faith I had in our marriage and our agency had been damaged. I don’t think it’s right for the agency to handle our divorce issue. And they stated that if I want it, they will terminate my contract and I think it’s right for me to leave the agency. I know that once I leave, rumors about a divorce would begin so I’m willing to get a divorce immediately, as you wanted. But if I leave the agency and we get a divorce, I will have no work so please send me the balance of our Yongin house. And let’s write down these promises with our lawyers and go through revisions on the divorce process. The reasons are the same as before. Your change of heart. Damage of trust. And I will accept that fact. Speak the truth. Send me the balance.”
Things then upped the mess quotient when her law firm issued a statement, clarifying that she does not wish for a divorce and that he did things like talked intimately with other women. Also, it says their agency is siding with him.
While Ku Hye Sun and Ahn Jae Hyun have “discussed” their divorce, they never fully “agreed” to divorce. Currently, she has no desire to divorce, and we would like to clarify that there are no exterior causes for the marriage breakdown. A draft of the divorce agreement has gone back and forth between the two, but the document has never been signed and sealed. Just as Ku Hye Sun herself revealed, it is true that she took steps to discuss divorce after receiving stress from Ahn Jae Hyun’s lack of interest in their marriage, his betrayal of her trust, and his frequent and intimate calls with other women while in a state of inebriation. However, after Ku Hye Sun’s mother received a psychological shock and her state of health worsened, and out of a desire to protect her family life, Ku Hye Sun stated clearly on Instagram that she has no desire for divorce. Her current feelings about her mother and her family have not changed. Therefore, articles about Ku Hye Sun and Ahn Jae Hyun’s divorce being mutually agreed upon are completely false and without basis. Moreover, Ku Hye Sun is no longer able to trust her agency, who one-sidedly managed their artist’s private life, and has confirmed that she can no longer work with them. We hope to terminate her exclusive contract with them as soon as possible. If her agency does not cooperate, then there will be no choice but to take legal action.
Of course, Ahn Jae Hyun’s side basically HAD to say something about that and he did on Instagram.
After suffering the slander that I contacted other women while in a state of inebriation, I could not remain silent any longer, so I decided to write this message. Although the past three years of our married life, which we began because we liked each other, were happy at times, it was also a time that was very taxing for me mentally. Although we made efforts to improve our relationship, it was not easy at all for us to close the distance between us. Finally, because we were unable to reconcile our differences, we agreed to separate, and so that she could live comfortably with her five pets, I ended up being the one to move out of our home. Afterwards, on July 30, at the end of continuous conversations [about the matter], Ku Hye Sun and I agreed to divorce. I paid the full divorce settlement amount that Ku Hye Sun personally calculated and decided. In Ku Hye Sun’s statement [the breakdown of the amount of money she was requesting], she even included things like a daily charge for her share of the housework and the donation that she made to charity at the time of our marriage. I fully agreed to her demands. However, my reason for doing so was not because I was the one at fault for our marriage falling apart, but because I wanted to financially help my wife that I had loved. But a few days later, Ku Hye Sun claimed that the amount we had initially agreed upon was insufficient, and she requested ownership of the apartment in which we lived together. After that, I notified our agency of the fact that we were divorcing, and on August 8, we met with our CEO, who attempted to talk us out of it and persuaded us to consider the timing. However, my feelings about the divorce did not change.
So he’s claiming that they did agree upon a divorce and that he agreed to her terms but she wanted more. Maybe he really is that nice of a guy, but knowing how divorces usually go, this kinda makes me doubt his story.
Anyway, he then documented her alleged trespassing.
On the night of August 9, [Ku Hye Sun] lied to the security guard at the apartment building where I was living alone that she had lost her key, and after receiving a spare key, entered my apartment. She told me, ‘It’s not trespassing; I entered because I’m your wife,’ and she began going through my cell phone and making recordings. I was asleep at the time, and I was extremely shocked and frightened by her behavior. While looking at my text messages on my cell phone, there was a message in which our CEO, after meeting with both of us, asked about one aspect of our stories that didn’t match up ([Ku Hye Sun] claimed that she hadn’t asked for our apartment, saying that she had no right to the ownership and that she had no reason to request it), and I responded. I did not say anything bad about her. That night, I had the thought that continuing our marriage any longer would only hurt both of us more, and I became even more certain about getting a divorce.
Then he says it’s her that wanted to accelerate the process, and this put him under more stress, which was especially terrible because he was depressed.
A few days later, [Ku Hye Sun] contacted me to say that she wanted a divorce immediately. She had hired a lawyer, and she sent me a divorce agreement and a press statement, and she told me to get a lawyer as well since she was planning on filing with the court on [August] 28. Because she was making additional requests, I had to get a loan, and I had to sell my home, and I had no choice but to inform our agency of everything. This was not to involve our agency in our personal matters, but because, as an actor under the agency, I needed to let them know about what would be happening in the future. After getting married, for the past one year and four months, I have been receiving psychiatric treatment and am currently taking antidepressants. During my married life, I did my utmost as a husband, and I have never done anything that I was ashamed of.
It’s lengthy as hell, but he basically says the talking to other women thing is false, they had agreed upon a divorce before she changed her mind, he did not badmouth his wife to their agency CEO, accused her of trespassing, and inferred that the strain of his marriage with her required him to get psychiatric treatment.
Goo Hye Sun then responded with a statement of her own. She starts off by clarifying the settlement issue.
I want to explain the part about my receiving the settlement money. The donation part of the settlement amount. This is referring to the full amount we donated instead of holding a wedding, and because all of that was paid for by Ku Hye Sun, I asked for half of the amount back. The interior decorations for Ahn Jae Hyun’s current home were also paid for by Ku Hye Sun, and because Ku Hye Sun was the one who did 100% of the housework, I demanded and received 30,000 won [approximately $25] a day in labor wages for the past three years… this was not a divorce settlement amount.
I dunno why but backcharging your spouse for chores is funny/petty as shit to me. Not a value judgment since if what she’s saying is true it seems justified but it also appears separate from the divorce proceedings, which makes me envision her invoicing him for being lazy as shit.
She then says she was the one who introduced him to a psychiatrist that was treating her, and reiterated that he was definitely talking to other women.
Because one of my dogs passed away, I became depressed first, and it was me who introduced my husband to the psychiatrist that I had seen in the past. After gradually recovering, my husband started enjoying alcohol, and I saw him talking to women over the phone while drunk with my own two eyes, and I heard it with my own two ears. I advised him to refrain, since it could cause misunderstandings, but we simply ended up fighting often because of it, and their confidential conversations ultimately became a domain of which I know nothing.
She then says when she knew the marriage was doomed, but still bought her mother-in-law stuff anyway.
On my husband’s birthday, he said he wanted to eat beef-and-radish soup, so I prepared it from early in the morning, but he only had one or two spoonfuls and didn’t finish the rest. Seeing him then go out for a birthday party with other people, I knew that his heart was truly no longer in [this marriage]. Still, I was grateful to [Ahn Jae Hyun’s] mother for giving birth to him, so when I heard that she didn’t have an air conditioner, I got her one, and I also got her a washing machine and a refrigerator.
She then clarified the apartment/home issues, as well as the trespassing.
[Ahn Jae Hyun] did not move into his separate apartment for the sake of our separation; instead, I allowed him to do so because he said he wished to focus on his acting. So I had the right to enter that apartment. Apart from that, regarding the matter of my asking him for ownership of our home, [Ahn Jae Hyun] did not spend much time at home even before our separation, so I told him, “If I’m going to live alone like this, give me the house.” So he told me that he’d give me our home in Yongin if we divorced, and I agreed. Since then, my husband has been talking incessantly about divorce.
Goo Hye Sun then concludes with perhaps the weirdest part of it all, essentially not knowing what she did wrong, and him saying she’s not sexy and that her nipples aren’t sexy.
What did I do wrong? When I asked, he told me that I’m not sexy, and my husband kept saying that he wanted to divorce me no matter what because I have unsexy nipples. Even while we were living together, my husband sometimes loudly played YouTube broadcasts that men in a marriage rut might listen to before falling asleep… I was a ghost that lived in our home. The woman you once loved so much has become a zombie. Even now.
Good god, what a mess this is. A proper ugly divorce, just thank god they don’t have kids.
Honestly, both of them have weird requests and stuff in this that they readily admitted because they think is right. But in particular the nipple shit is weird as hell to me, but then netizens pointed out that he’s Jung Joon Young’s close friend, and I guess him being a shitty weirdo wouldn’t be all that surprising.
Anyway, I doubt this drama is even close to being over.